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The Secret National Epidemic
By Doug Collins, The Free Press
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By Domenico Maceri, PhD, contributor
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The Secret National Epidemic
By Doug Collins, The Free Press
If you�ve ever spent much time traveling or living outside the United
States, you�ll probably notice some major differences in lifestyles.
One is that people in other countries are typically much more social
than those in the US. Villagers in less developed countries as well as
urbanites in high-tech Europe and Asia seem to value regular human
contact much more than we do. In most countries, people spend free
time with friends most days of the week. Our typical social calendar
is relatively sparse, and our free time is largely filled by rented
videos, a second job, and individual hobbies. Occasionally we go out
with friends or have friends over.
For we Americans, this comparative lack of human contact has become
normal. We accept it as the way things are. But looking deeply inside
of ourselves, many of us might find that we are�ahem�a bit lonely. I
know it can be hard to admit this. It�s easy to deny the problem,
because seeing it requires taking a critical look both at ourselves
and at society. On the one hand, we may not want to admit that we
ourselves are sometimes to blame; on the other hand, we may feel
powerless to confront larger social problems than can cause
loneliness.
Sometimes loneliness is self-imposed. In our consumer culture, we go
to retail stores where �the customer is king.� That makes shopping
pleasant, but then we go home with the same attitude�that we are the
king�and things fall apart. After all, if your spouse also thinks he
or she is the king, chances are you�re not going to be living with
each other very long! It�s better to get beyond an insistence that
others should do things �my way.� Maybe millionaires like Frank
Sinatra can get away with this, but normal people can�t�and
shouldn�t.
Another self-imposed problem is that we may be hesitant to mention our
weaknesses. We are a �pick-yourself-up-by-your-bootstraps� nation, and
often we try to be impossibly independent. But it�s good to mention
your worries, doubts, fears, and loneliness. It�s also good to ask for
help, and to rely on others when you need to. It�s just natural! Of
course it�s not good to dump all your problems on someone, but you can
certainly mention them in conversation at the right times.
As progressives, we may also suffer an additional self-imposed
loneliness. We may go to a rally or meeting, but still feel lonely.
Sharing a common cause with other likeminded people is fine, but it
won�t cure loneliness. For that, we need to relate to people
face-to-face, not shoulder-to-shoulder. We have to learn to accept and
enjoy individual differences, and to tolerate�even be curious
about�other beliefs. Otherwise we will be unable to live with others.
There is a danger in any sort of conformity�political or
unconscious�that diversity and individuality can be trampled upon.
Of course many causes of loneliness are farther beyond our control. We
work different shifts and on different days from our partner or
friend, so it�s hard to spend much time together. We move farther out
in suburbia to more affordable housing, but we miss being closer to
our old friends. We are uprooted and have to move to a totally new
area because of a job transfer or job dislocation. We meet some nice
people in a class we take, but it lasts only one term, and we don�t
see the same people again.
These sorts of loneliness are caused by large social problems:
suburban sprawl and high urban housing costs, lack of job security,
lack of a social safety net, and a �cafeteria curriculum� in the
colleges that emphasizes individual electives rather than an ongoing
collective experience with classmates.
In short, there are a lot of big factors working against a small
lonely person. Here�s where the importance of shoulder-to-shoulder
activity comes in. To solve the large social problems, we need to
start building social awareness of the problems and applying pressure
to solve.them. This can be done by conversation, meetings, rallies,
letter writing, political lobbying, petitions, you name it. (It can
also be done by publishing a volunteer progressive newsmagazine!).
Fixing such larger social problems will not only relieve loneliness
for millions in the future, but will also increase mental and
environmental health. After all, too many Americans�rich and poor
alike�now simply recede into their own secluded homes. Their homes
become their castles, and they become the kings of millions of
miniature fiefdoms sprawled all over the country, isolated from other
ideas, and too often with their own minature armies of attack dogs and
handguns in case someone ever dares to knock on their front door.
One of the most truly progressive things you can do, whether you are a
Democrat, Republican, Capitalist, Communist, Atheist, or Baptist is to
venture outside your castle and relinquish your title as king. Become
more social and inclusive. Get out, meet, and enjoy people who don�t
necessarily think the same way you do. Could be relatives. Could be
neighbors. Could be coworkers or even someone you met at the mall. And
if you don�t have someone to get out with this evening, then get out
of the house yourself and start doing something you enjoy, such as a
movie, some live music, or a walk in the park. Taking a walk might be
the beginning of a better way of life for yourself and millions of
others.
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